I let the girl's lead on how to celebrate/remember Oliver's birthday on March 25th. They wanted to make blueberry cake pops and have a tea party with a friend who knew Oliver, so that's what we did!
I was thankful for their cheerful spirit about it all, and they understood why I was sad throughout the day too. I had been heavy with memories leading up to that week, and I think planning something active and appropriate for the girls to help them remember was helpful for me too. We talked about Oliver's birthday last year, looked at photos, and talked about what they remembered. They ask a lot of the same questions I do - How old is Oliver in heaven? What does he look like? Does he get to eat birthday cake in heaven? (Well, some of their questions are more original than mine :) I miss my little boy terribly, and am glad I don't have the power to wish him back for real because I would be sorely tempted at times, even though I know he is so much better and happier where he is. It was a good day for remembering. Happy Birthday, little Oliver.
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